Every day I walk down a road that I often despise- the mud,
the cavernous ruts, the garbage, the throngs of people, bicycles and the
occasional brave automobile. You know, just a treacherous little slip of dirt
that burdens me daily. One day, I, the classic, able-bodied complainer that I am, was bemoaning
my plight at being forced to walk on such a road. As the 5th group
of children ran by to slap my white skin and sprint away, I noticed I was
walking behind a man in a wheel chair. The sandy potholes and Himalayan-esque mounds
that cover every meter of the 5k+ road were difficult even for the young and fit, so
I was stunned to see him puttering along. He struggled with unbearable slowness. After all,
he only had one working hand to propel him.
Now my western friends, this is a “wheel chair” in the sense
that it is a chair with wheels but I don’t want you to think that it is
anything like the image you have in your mind. They don’t have legitimate wheel
chairs in this neck of the woods. It was a hand welded metal lawn chair which
he attached 2 different size wheels to the outside. The seat looked to have
collapsed long ago and had been replaced with a plastic disk- possibly the top
of a bucket.
People passed him by the dozen. He moved at a speedy 3
centimeters an hour. As I got closer, you could see that he was older and had an
obvious longstanding defect consistent with polio. His one working hand was
even misshaped but long callused from turning that wheel. How was he not going
in circles? The answer- impossibly small motions. I was faced with that awkward
moment where I would pass him. At this point, talking with strangers is not my
favorite pass time, but I couldn’t walk to my house knowing that if no one helped him, this man would
still be here on this road long after I went to bed. So, I
said hello.
He gave me a 6 tooth smile.
“Can I help you?” I motioned pushing him with my hands.
He apologized immediately in Tonga “I don’t speak any English.” So I said it in Tonga and added a quick “but I don’t speak much”. He laughed riotously and put his crooked hand to his forehead. “Okey.”
He gave me a 6 tooth smile.
“Can I help you?” I motioned pushing him with my hands.
He apologized immediately in Tonga “I don’t speak any English.” So I said it in Tonga and added a quick “but I don’t speak much”. He laughed riotously and put his crooked hand to his forehead. “Okey.”
I’ve pushed my fair share of wheel chairs but this was an
extraordinary challenge. The road is truly one of the worst even for land cruisers,
let alone for jerry-rigged wheel chairs, so, you know, there was that. But the real
challenge was that there were no handles on the chair to speak of, so, I just
kind of awkwardly hugged it as I pushed. We chatted a bit but within 4 seconds
my small talk was expended. Luckily we had the laughter of every single person
within a 1 kilometer radius to fill the silence. He loved every second of it,
as if he was the head of a prestigious parade. He waved and chatted to people
passing by and they called out to him “look at you with your white driver!” and
he would chuckle. Meanwhile, I was near collapse. Arms shook, the sweat
dripped and my breath came more rapidly than I’d like to admit. Every time we
tackled a hole/rut/sand pit/incline/decline he would hold his breath. When we
eventually made it out with him still in the chair, he would say “Ah, my good
driva’!”
As we came up to my turn off, I asked him how much further he
needed to go and he told me to stop because his brother would come and finish
the job. A crowd of ladies gathered and said, “We will take him if his brother
doesn’t come. You can go.” I must have looked as worn out as I felt. But I
appreciated it that now other passersby were willing to volunteer for the job.
I guess it just takes one lumbering, out of place muzungu to show that
anyone can help him do this.
I’d give you a cursory platitude here about the struggle it
is to be handicapped especially in an area like this but I’m sure it is no more
insightful that what you can surmise for yourself. The main moral I got from
the experience was that he was smiling before I ever got there to help him and
that makes him a much better man than I.